February 4th, 2010
Over the last few years, I’ve learned more about the concept of Emotional Intelligence, or EQ. Daniel Goleman describes those with a high EQ as having “abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.”
Last week, I had a day that tested my EQ. Actually, it began the night before.
I had planned to get to bed early, so I could get plenty of sleep before waking at 4am to catch a 6am flight with my boys. We were on our way to Jackson Hole, Wyoming to join some of our great friends and teammates for four days of snow fun.
My wife and I got to bed early as planned, and then our phones started to ring at about 10:30pm. Two hours later, we were on our way to see a family member who needed some urgent council. It’s a blessing for us to be able to help, but my plan for a restful night was now shot. By the time I got back to bed, I got maybe an hour of sleep before the alarm went off.
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Tags: Behavior, Communication, Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, Self Development
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February 2nd, 2010
A few years back, I had the pleasure of coaching one of the most no-nonsense leaders I have ever met. He was known and respected in his organization for his directness and candor. He was a bit rough around the edges, but he had a heart of gold. I found him a bit intimidating at first, but now that I’ve gotten to know him I wouldn’t hesitate to go to him if I ever have a real need.
Over the years, I spent time with his leadership team and the thousand plus others that he led. Frequently they would comment on how they loved working with him because, while they may not always like what he had to say, they always knew where they stood.

This leader had all sorts of sayings that went perfectly with his personality. One of my favorites was “ I am leaning in on this one.” This meant that he was diving head first into the problem. He knew that business and life are filled with problems and challenges, which are just waiting to be solved and learned from.
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Tags: Courage, Integrity, Leadership, Problem Solving, Self Development
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January 26th, 2010
Think about the best work week you have ever had. Maybe you just started daydreaming about that award trip to the Bahamas, or the leadership conference (golfing vacation) in Palm Springs….but for the purpose of this exercise, let’s consider something else.
Think about a week that you really brought your “A” game to the office.
You were on time, fully present and prepared for all your meetings. You closed the deals you were working on. You executed with excellence. Not only this, but you had time to think, to plan, to exercise, and you were home in time for dinner! Did I mention email? Yes, you were even caught up on all email correspondence. Not just your work email, but your Linkedin, Facebook, and personal email accounts.
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Tags: Coaching, Core4, Disciplines, Email, Time Blocking
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January 21st, 2010
Tags: Family, Marriage
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January 19th, 2010
I don’t know if you are like me, but often, I find I am at a loss to recall the key lessons learned from past years. Think about it. What were the greatest lessons you learned in business or in life in 2005? What about 2003?
Okay, lets make this a bit easier. What did you learn in 2009?
One tactic that I have found useful is to label my years. I do this while spending a day during the Christmas break or right after the new year reflecting and planning. I review my Life Plan, Business Vision and Business Plan. I spend time journaling through the past year, and work to identify any big lessons learned. Then, once this is done, I use all this information to give both the past and upcoming year a label.
Here is what I mean by a label: I identify what my biggest focus points or new insights were during the year. They are not usually all that profound.
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Tags: Decision Making, Life Planning, New Year, Reflection
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