Posts Tagged ‘Self Development’

Reboundability

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010

I had the oppor­tu­nity to work with one of our favorite clients last week in Den­ver. Our team orga­nized and led a two day expe­ri­ence for their top per­form­ing man­agers and sales force. It was a won­der­ful time.

Won­der­ful, that is, once I arrived.

I will spare you the brunt of my travel woes, but my day involved can­celled planes, standby, and an arrival just 3 hours after the event started. Slightly stressed (or just a bit more than slightly), I made it to the site with just 15 min­utes to spare before I was to speak on Coach­ing Leadership.

It was at this event that I learned about the term “rebound­abil­ity”. After my pre­sen­ta­tion, I was talk­ing to a few of our clients and I shared about my day’s mishaps. This is when our friend and client Melanie Nygren shared this idea of reboundabilty.

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Worst Case Thinking

Thursday, February 11th, 2010

What’s the worst thing that can hap­pen? What if I don’t do well on this exam? What if he says no? What if I get turned down for the pro­mo­tion, or nobody agrees with me, or I lose every­thing I invested? What is really the worst case?

Worst Case Think­ing is a process that can aid those of you who find your­selves unable to take healthy risks. This sim­ple think­ing model can help you to over­come the neg­a­tive emo­tions that are birthed in illog­i­cal fear.

Over the years, this type of fear has come up count­less times in coach­ing ses­sions. I’ve seen Worst Case Think­ing help many in their lives and careers to risk more, expe­ri­ence more, impact more and grow more. Here is how it works.

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Is it Really That Bad?

Thursday, February 4th, 2010

Over the last few years, I’ve learned more about the con­cept of Emo­tional Intel­li­gence, or EQ.  Daniel Gole­man describes those with a high EQ as hav­ing “abil­i­ties such as being able to moti­vate one­self and per­sist in the face of frus­tra­tions; to con­trol impulse and delay grat­i­fi­ca­tion; to reg­u­late one’s moods and keep dis­tress from swamp­ing the abil­ity to think; to empathize and to hope.”

Last week, I had a day that tested my EQ.  Actu­ally, it began the night before.

I had planned to get to bed early, so I could get plenty of sleep before wak­ing at 4am to catch a 6am flight with my boys.  We were on our way to Jack­son Hole, Wyoming to join some of our great friends and team­mates for four days of snow fun.

My wife and I got to bed early as planned, and then our phones started to ring at about 10:30pm.  Two hours later, we were on our way to see a fam­ily mem­ber who needed some urgent coun­cil.  It’s a bless­ing for us to be able to help, but my plan for a rest­ful night was now shot.  By the time I got back to bed, I got maybe an hour of sleep before the alarm went off.

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Lean In

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

A few years back, I had the plea­sure of coach­ing one of the most no-nonsense lead­ers I have ever met.  He was known and respected in his orga­ni­za­tion for his direct­ness and can­dor.  He was a bit rough around the edges, but he had a heart of gold.  I found him a bit intim­i­dat­ing at first, but now that I’ve got­ten to know him I wouldn’t hes­i­tate to go to him if I ever have a real need.

Over the years, I spent time with his lead­er­ship team and the thou­sand plus oth­ers that he led.  Fre­quently they would com­ment on how they loved work­ing with him because, while they may not always like what he had to say, they always knew where they stood.

This leader had all sorts of say­ings that went per­fectly with his per­son­al­ity.  One of my favorites was “ I am lean­ing in on this one.”  This meant that he was div­ing head first into the prob­lem.  He knew that busi­ness and life are filled with prob­lems and chal­lenges, which are just wait­ing to be solved and learned from.

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Goal or Discipline?

Tuesday, January 5th, 2010

Many blogs are being writ­ten right now on the topic of New Year’s res­o­lu­tions and goals for the year ahead.  This is NOT one of them.

Runner on StairsToday I want to clear up some con­fu­sion we com­monly see in the minds of our clients.  This con­fu­sion is around the dif­fer­ence between a goal and a discipline. 

To put it sim­ply, a goal is the end result you’re aim­ing for.  A dis­ci­pline is the behav­ior or task you must repeat, over and over, to achieve the result you want.  A goal is an idea that moti­vates you.  A dis­ci­pline is an action that moves you forward.

At Build­ing Cham­pi­ons, we coach our clients to gain clar­ity on which dis­ci­plines they must estab­lish in order for them to have the high­est prob­a­bil­ity of reach­ing their goals.  If the client is to suc­ceed, these dis­ci­plines must be non-negotiable.   We like to focus on the behav­iors that define how we live and lead. 

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