Posts Tagged ‘Presence’

Relationships Take Time

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

If you have ever strug­gled with your spouse, one of your kids, a par­ent, a friend, or a fel­low team­mate, you know how it can neg­a­tively impact the other areas of your life. Con­versely, if you are doing excep­tion­ally well in any of those rela­tion­ships, you know how that over­all feel­ing of good­ness tends to spill over into the other areas of your life.

The depth and qual­ity of our rela­tion­ships directly impacts the over­all qual­ity of our lives. And we all know that deep, high-quality rela­tion­ships take time.

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I Love a Good Vacation in the Morning

Tuesday, April 27th, 2010

The alarm rings, the head rises, the shower steams, the cof­fee is brewed, the email inbox chimes, the news is watched, the car door slams, and the game of chase begins.

Wak­ing up run­ning is the norm for many in these crazed times. This daily rou­tine can leave many a leader feel­ing over­whelmed and tired. It can cause us to live our days crav­ing an escape.

We go about our sched­ule with mechan­i­cal pre­ci­sion, with­out really being present for days, weeks, or even months. We’re just wait­ing for the day we can board a plane to the trop­ics. Then, once the wheels are up and the Mai Tai is in hand, relax­ation will finally set in.

It does not need to be this way.

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The Power of One

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

As I write this, I am in Wash­ing­ton DC as a guest of our client and part­ner Chick-fil-A at their annual conference.

The event kicked off last night, with about 3600 of their team mem­bers in atten­dance. It was a pow­er­ful open­ing, with music by Israel Houghton and a great mes­sage by Bill Hybels. Bill is the Sr. Pas­tor of Wil­low Creek Church in Chicago, and he founded the Lead­er­ship Sum­mit which impacts thou­sands of lead­ers every year from around the world.

What struck me last night was the theme. I’m not sure whether Israel and Bill had synched up prior to that night, but their mes­sage was clear.

Each of us can be used to for­ever impact the life of one person.

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There is No Substitute for One on One Time

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

Today has been a won­der­ful day!  It began with an early morn­ing meet­ing with a friend who has been men­tor­ing me for the last 13 years.  Recently, my time with him has been less fre­quent, but when­ever I am with him I learn and grow.  Our meet­ing took place at my favorite local cof­fee house here in Lake Oswego.  He was pour­ing into me.

Father and DaughterAfter an hour and a half, he left, and one of my sons came by.  He is 17, and is fin­ish­ing up his senior year with some classes at our local com­mu­nity col­lege.  The pur­pose of our one on one time was to con­nect and take a look at his plan for the next quar­ter.  It was an oppor­tu­nity for me to lis­ten to him and to con­nect at a deeper level.  I was able to pour into him.

The rea­son I wanted to share with you about my morn­ing is to chal­lenge you to think about how you will spend your time this year. 

Are you proac­tively sched­ul­ing one on one time with those you care for most?

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Presents or Presence?

Thursday, December 24th, 2009

I think I am start­ing to fall into the social net­work­ing groove.  I tweeted ear­lier today ask­ing those who fol­low my posts this Lead­er­ship and Life Ques­tion: What is the most impor­tant thing for you to expe­ri­ence or accom­plish between now and the year end?  I was really ask­ing myself this ques­tion, and I thought I would throw it out there for all of you to pon­der as well.

So, here is my response:  I want to expe­ri­ence pure and com­plete pres­ence dur­ing this Christ­mas and New Years’ break.

Presents

What I want most is to cel­e­brate this very spe­cial sea­son by being absolutely present in each and every con­ver­sa­tion, and in each and every moment.  I am a total men­tal spaz so this can be very challenging.

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