In this Leadership Moment, Daniel talks about Emotional Intelligence and the triggers that can set you off.
Posts Tagged ‘Emotional Intelligence’
Leadership Moment: EQ and The Hulk
Monday, August 1st, 2011In Times of Crisis, Do You Make it Better or Worse?
Friday, April 1st, 2011When challenging news hits, do your emotions rise? Does your tone and intensity kick up a notch? Do your actions become more frantic and fast paced?
If so, you are probably making the situation worse.
When you are a leader, the people around you will mirror your response. In a time of crisis, you must have the best thinking from everyone.
Push Through
Friday, November 19th, 2010
I am afraid of heights. I get uneasy when looking over the edge of a cliff or a tall bridge. This fear has not been debilitating, and I can generally work and play through it. But I do notice an increase in my breathing, my heart rate, and sometimes even muscle tremors.
I find I can push through the feeling by looking at the situation and answering logical questions that help me to see that my fear is irrational. When both of my feet are planted firmly on the sidewalk, I usually don’t fall over for no reason, right? So there is no reason to think I will topple over when I’m standing on a balcony 300 feet above that sidewalk.
Fear can keep us from doing many of the things in our life and business that we know we need to do or would truly enjoy. Where are you being held back by fear and limiting beliefs?
Can You Feel It?
Wednesday, July 21st, 2010
I had a coaching session last week with a client who owns a great company here in the Northwest. Like many business leaders, his natural behavioral style is on the dominant side, which means he is a take-charge kind of guy. For those of you familiar with the DISC behavioral language, he is a High D.
I know this type very, very well.
Studies have shown that there is a correlating emotion for each behavioral style which emerges when that person is frustrated or challenged. For a High D, the emotion is anger.
In this session, my client shared that he feels some very real physical changes when he is being challenged or threatened. What he experienced has everything to do with Emotional Intelligence, or EQ.
Is it Really That Bad?
Thursday, February 4th, 2010
Over the last few years, I’ve learned more about the concept of Emotional Intelligence, or EQ. Daniel Goleman describes those with a high EQ as having “abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.”
Last week, I had a day that tested my EQ. Actually, it began the night before.
I had planned to get to bed early, so I could get plenty of sleep before waking at 4am to catch a 6am flight with my boys. We were on our way to Jackson Hole, Wyoming to join some of our great friends and teammates for four days of snow fun.
My wife and I got to bed early as planned, and then our phones started to ring at about 10:30pm. Two hours later, we were on our way to see a family member who needed some urgent council. It’s a blessing for us to be able to help, but my plan for a restful night was now shot. By the time I got back to bed, I got maybe an hour of sleep before the alarm went off.
