Over the last few years, I’ve learned more about the concept of Emotional Intelligence, or EQ. Daniel Goleman describes those with a high EQ as having “abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.”
Last week, I had a day that tested my EQ. Actually, it began the night before.
I had planned to get to bed early, so I could get plenty of sleep before waking at 4am to catch a 6am flight with my boys. We were on our way to Jackson Hole, Wyoming to join some of our great friends and teammates for four days of snow fun.
My wife and I got to bed early as planned, and then our phones started to ring at about 10:30pm. Two hours later, we were on our way to see a family member who needed some urgent council. It’s a blessing for us to be able to help, but my plan for a restful night was now shot. By the time I got back to bed, I got maybe an hour of sleep before the alarm went off.

After an hour and a half, he left, and one of my sons came by. He is 17, and is finishing up his senior year with some classes at our local community college. The purpose of our one on one time was to connect and take a look at his plan for the next quarter. It was an opportunity for me to listen to him and to connect at a deeper level. I was able to pour into him.
We are so very grateful for the dynamics in our home. Our three teens are truly each other’s best friends, and they all run in one big pack of kids who range in age from 14 to 20. As a result, our house has become base camp for many of our kids’ friends.
A few months ago I had the wonderful privilege of having an executive client come to my office for a full-day coaching session. The purpose of the extended session was to help her sharpen the skills required for her to advance as a leader in her company. My client is incredibly smart, a very hard worker, well respected and passionate about her longstanding role in this international organization. She is also the highest ranking female leader in her male dominated firm. 
