We all walk through life hearing about what we should do to improve. Still, most of us struggle with changing our behavior.
Over the years, I have coached thousands of people in one-on-one or group sessions. Most of these coaching conversations revolved around the topic of improvement — quality of life, business results, health, relationships, team performance. People typically hire a coach because they believe they will have a better chance of making the necessary changes with a coach on their team.
And of course, I agree!
The problem is that almost all of these improved results require improved behaviors, and behavior is not easily changed. If we want to change our behavior, we must change our thinking. And to change our thinking, we must be able to clearly define “why.”
Our “why” must be worth shaking up our comfortable behaviors. If it is not, we will go through life knowing we should improve in certain areas, but we won’t until it is too late.
So, how do you find your “why?”
Change can be negatively or positively motivated. For example:
Positive: I will exercise 5 days per week so that I am able to connect with my kids by playing with them and doing things they like to do.
Negative: I will exercise 5 days per week in order to reduce the odds of my health failing and being a burden to those I care for.
I believe that we are most likely to sustain healthy habit changes if we can connect our “why” to something positive.
Additionally, it is best when we can connect our “why” to those we care about most, or to a cause that is bigger than ourselves. We all want to make a difference with our lives. As a result, we want our actions and gifts to contribute to the people and causes we are passionate about.
Is there a habit you want to improve, a gap you want to close, or even a talent you want to further leverage? Take some time and figure out “why.” It will be well worth the time invested.